How to Make Friends

Many people find it hard to make friends. It really isn't, so get out of your shell and remember that if you love yourself, others will too. Especially being a teen, making friends can be hard or easy depending upon several factors.

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Steps

1. Relax. It's all about confidence - if you are nervous or try too hard to look cool you'll just act weird, so you won't make any friends. You will stand out as overdoing something. You have to think of good reasons of why someone would like to meet you, think of the virtues you have. So relax, people will like you for passing a peaceful energy.
2. Be nice. How do you expect them to like you if you are not nice? Put a calm smile on your face and find out what you and the person you are trying to befriend have in common. You'll be able to be more comfortable if you find out that other person has things in common with you.
3. Be a good listener. Give attention to what they say, look straight in their eyes and show you're paying attention. Nod, agree, show you find that is interesting. It's important to be a good listener, because everyone likes to be heard, and if this person feels like you're listening to them, your new friend will enjoy your company more.
4. Be yourself. I know you've heard it a lot of times, but no one really likes a poseur - people would like the real you better for your virtues, not a fake person no one really knows. So just be you, speak your mind, that way people will enjoy being around you a lot more and feel comfortable that you're not trying to deceive them or are moving so fast that they can't keep up (being fake, trying to change what you truly are in a short period of time). Be yourself and you will get people that like you for you. If they don't like you for being yourself, then it is time to move on to someone else. Be natural, be the way that you were born to be... God did put you on Earth for some purpose and show it off.
5. Develop friendships. You may talk to someone now but soon they'll forget you if you stop. You better take a time to say hi to them everyday and ask how are they doing. Say their name as often as you can, like every once every 3-5 sentences you say, unless you know it'd seem awkward. When you greet them, say things like, "Hey there, Alex!", "How've you been, Sarah?", "I hope classes are going well with you, Josh!" If you do that everyday, they'll be happy that you care about them and remembered them, so they won't forget you and you guys will be good friends. Also, if you say the other person's name out more often, and they hate it, they can come to appreciate it, because of you!
6. Include those friends in your social life. Invite your new friends to go out together with you, go to mall or hang out at a cool place. You guys must have fun together, so you can introduce your new friends to old friends and build your social circle from there, with people that accept each other.

Tips

• Get your new friend's phone number, e-mail addresses and give them yours; keep in touch.
• Don't try too hard, relax and be yourself - they will like you.
• Have fun with your new friends; but don't forget old friends.
• Stop thinking you are not cool enough to talk to them. They will have good reasons to want to talk to you after they meet you - think of your virtues!
• Smile! People are drawn to happy, positive people!

Warnings

• Don't try to change yourself in order to fit in to make new friends. A good friend sometimes does things he or she doesn't want to do, such as helping a friend move or going to see a band that you don't really like, but you should never give into pressure to do something you think is wrong.
• Don't be untrue to your convictions and beliefs, and if this causes you to lose some friends, you're better off without them. You'll also find that your integrity may help you win better friends, and if you just "be yourself" you'll make friends who like you for who you are.
• Never leave old good-friends because you may like someone else more. This is a big, bad mistake. It's great to have different groups of friends, but if you abandon one group for another, you may soon find yourself without any friends at all.
• Don't try to buy friends by giving people gifts or money. While it's nice to give a friend a gift sometimes, if you go overboard, it's asking for trouble. A person who will "be your friend" without responding with little things in turn, when you buy him or her things, probably just likes the things you gave them--not you.

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